The fairer, and weaker sex–women–rely men’s strength to give them a good life. Feminism has resulted in a fun social experiment where women attempt to change this. They go to work and avoid being a kept wife. However, changes in material circumstances do not change a fundamental relationship between the sexes, as that is a hardwired relationship that has evolved millions of years ago already. It’s not that this evolution leads to one way of doing things, or just one type of relationship. Obviously, there is variation in people. Variation in masculinity in a man or a woman, and femininity in a man or a woman.
But no man has an hourglass figure. No woman has a V-shaped physique. Her hips are always going to be much wider than her waist, assuming a normal and healthy BMI. Some things cannot be changed. We can clearly see physical differences between man and woman, even in the case of female-to-male transexuals. All transexual men still look like women. Their jaws are softer, their heads are smaller, and their shoulders are more narrow. Their lower legs also look less lean.
We have to wonder, if there are physical differences, are their equally stark mental differences? The purpose of those wide hips is to bear children healthfully. Could the purpose of her mind be to be more attuned to her children? And is it any surprise then that the most athletic women are the most masculine? Or that the most career-driven women have thinner hips? They might be able to provide for themselves more. And this has been shown in fact, where in times of poverty, more masculine women are preferred by men, because the more people who try to provide, the better. In times of plenty, feminine women with wide hips are preferred because it’s possible to have fun finally and date someone beautiful. This was postulated in a paper titled Preferred Women’s Waist-to-Hip Ratio Variation over the Last 2,500 Years.
Moreover, men’s facial femininity preferences correlate positively with the health of the nation . As femininity is associated with lower ratings of dominance , this suggests that in harsher environments men prefer cues to re-source acquisition and holding potential over high fecundity .
The provider in every male is wired to help a feminine woman, as long as he isn’t in need. The above quote has one frightening implication. If men’s preferences for femininity are declining, could that indicate that the overall health of America is also declining? Because if so, it’s not productive to help women anymore. If they can help themselves, why should you help them? It’s not 1920. Holding the door open for a woman is sexist. Wanting a housewife is sexist, even though the majority of Americans do not believe in equal distribution of household duties, i.e., they want gender roles (study). Imagine a mother with her child in a stroller. How do you view her? As strong and independent? Public perception by and large still sees women as caretakers and homemakers and wants to keep it that way.
Feminist icon Gloria Steinem wrote once: “Women are not going to be equal outside the home until men are equal in it.”
But men and women are never going to be equal. And they really shouldn’t be.* It almost sounds like socialism. Let’s all be equal! We should all be feminists! Women are wired to seek help from men. Although this wiring can be overcome, and women can become financially independent, they cannot become emotionally independent without turning into sour grapes.
*The inequality is motivating, uplifting, and drives each sex to become the most vigorous version of itself, in order to secure a desirable partner. Without sexual polarity, this motivation would cease to exist.
Until I see an example of a woman who is independent in her 40’s and 50’s who does not feel the need to say negative things about men or be a champion for women’s rights, and can just live her life happily, I cannot believe that women can be happiest on their own. Why would such emotional creatures be able to be happy without a man? The man is a source of her excitement in life. Her children are a source of excitement. After children she can divorce him and live happily with his money and do what she wants. This is commonplace today, and isn’t a sign of independence (she’s dependent on alimony).
Stop Getting Hijacked
We’ve established now that women need your help. They’re wired to. We can argue that they might not act like it, but many still appreciate chivalry. But chivalry, and being a Good Samaritan, isn’t worth it. I had a female follower once ask me for help writing an entire article. We had exchanged contact information for some reason, on a private messaging service where I only talk to a few friends who share my political views. She had interviewed me on her Instagram and we had some similar political beliefs.
But then she started asking me for help with random things. She seemed stupid. Unable to do anything on her own. And she was in her mid-thirties. She had hit the wall years ago, and was used to receiving free gifts from men. I had become red-pilled at this point, in that, I understood what was happening. So I did not help her. But I didn’t tell her the entire truth, which was that she was trying to use me. I called her out and she said that this is something she does at entrepreneur groups she goes to. Everyone just helps each other.
She told me she found someone to come over and help her after that (a man). So it’s like she has a list of contacts she can ask for help any time. I stopped all conversations with her (they were all about politics and complaining about liberals–I barely ever entertained these conversations), but then a couple months later, she continued the trend. She asked me for help writing an entire article. She said “you know much more about this than I do,” justifying her actions. She wanted me to give her sources and content. There is no care for my time.
These type of women stand at the finish line and chat with the winners. This is an evolved mating strategy. Women shouldn’t have to work that hard. I don’t think they’re meant to. Can they? Sure, but I don’t think they have the same tolerance for stress and high-pressure situations as men. This is because they are more emotionally vulnerable and sensitive, which could help them be aware of a child’s emotions and needs, as well as assess the risk of threat from male suitors, since they are at a greater risk of being harmed physically in a relationship. It’s why they sometimes write on Instagram “positive vibes only.” I don’t resonate with that, because I don’t mind some negativity. I’m not as sensitive so I can see past it and try to understand what’s happening.
Beware of the Damsel in Disguise
To stop getting hijacked, you have to first realize that women will want to use up your time without any care for how it affects your life. They just want you to help them, like a leech. Not all women are like this. It’s not like I regularly observe this behavior in my life. In fact, it’s rare that I see it today. Technology has eliminated the need to ask people for help with even directions. It’s eliminated the need for many things which once upon a time led to organic interaction as well as attraction.
The damsel in distress should be helped, when she truly cannot help herself. But today, we have women who ask for help, then accuse men falsely of sexual harassment. A man in Australia lost his job and a relationship after spending two hours helping a 19-year-old woman fix her car (story). Police surveillance footage found the two smiling and hugging at the end. The woman accused him of stalking her afterwards and assaulting her at another location. She later confessed that she made it up completely.
I’m not exactly sure what her motivations might be. But we do know one frightening fact. Some women do not even know why they falsely accuse men of sexual crimes. It’s almost as if it’s just a reflexive habit in some cases. Once upon a time, it was known that women would actually believe they had been raped when nothing of the sort had ever occurred. The phenomenon was called pseudologia phantastica (see here).
The damsel in disguse tricked me one last time (I hope) nearly twelve months ago. I matched with her on Bumble and was impressed by her hourglass figure. She was African-American. She texted me at midnight one day and said she needed help at a bar downtown. I lived a half-hour away. I fell for it completely. At first I was skeptical, and I did not want to help her. But I caved in when she said that she would make it the best night ever.
With the promises of poon on my mind, I finally said “yes.” I drove to pick her up, we ate some food, and on the drive back to my place, she started placing her hand next to my crotch, and took my hand and placed it right next to her vagina. Sexual advances should be done on my terms, not hers. So I did not find this entertaining. We fell asleep as soon as we got to my place and she was not receptive in the morning. She saved $50 on an Uber because my provider instinct got hijacked.
The Purpose of This Instinct
The provider instinct is being hijacked to serve a woman’s need without her giving you anything of value in return. The Australian woman who falsely accused a man of helping her fix her car, for two hours, claimed that he propositioned her for sex. I wonder now if that is a fantasy which she wished came true. If that is the case, it speaks to a natural attraction that may form when a man helps a woman. She might become interested in him for more than just his ability to help her. But to protect, and provide. A woman will open up to a man who performs these functions.
As I said before, with technology use, there is less need to perform these functions. Women thus find attraction elsewhere, in images for example, and more superficial traits. Or they just end up feeling lonely and empty. A hot Tinder match isn’t going to make her feel a deep sense of attraction as she would for a man who helps her fix her car and seems like someone who could provide for her. That type of relationships is spontaneous and involves a man-to-woman relationship. The hot Tinder date involves a penis-to-vagina relationship, i.e., that’s the only difference between the two people, and the attraction doesn’t go too much deeper than that.
The purpose of the provider instinct is to give and receive. You give to a woman and receive a smile, respect, love, and children. You don’t provide for just anyone. You provide for your dearest companion. And the instinct gets hijacked when you are single, and women will use you without wanting to give you anything in return. Perhaps she will perform other favors in the future. But she doesn’t have to do that. Why would she? You just helped her with something minor. Or even major, like moving into a new apartment and lifting heavy things.
It’s unfortunate that men today are less interested in helping women. But it’s because once upon a time, their help was rewarded. And I’m not just talking about with sex. That is a great reward. But with true appreciation for who he is as a man (and the sex that would come from a man helping woman would reflect most likely to some degree how much she appreciates him). Without that appreciation, all you have is your own perception of feeling like a good person. And eventually, you’ll realize that it’s just a comforting lie. You’re being used.