Traditional women do exist, and they will score very high on this list, developed exclusively by me, YogiOabs! In addition to the video I published last Friday (on Femininity Fridays), I have added a point system here, with a maximum score of 55 points. Take out a pen and paper, and record the number of points you get. You only get points if your answer to these questions is in the affirmative, except for questions three and four, as I will explain below. Here we go!
1.She is a virgin (+5)
Being a virgin does not guarantee that a woman is traditional, but it’s so underappreciated today that you will get 5 points if you are a virgin. As I discussed previously, men should date virgins more often, or exclusively in my opinion, to preserve the sanctity of marriage and discourage promiscuity, in both males and females.
A virgin is also more likely to be religious as well and have traditional values. If you are a virgin, give yourself five points. If you are a guy, use this list to evaluate prospective partners.
2. She puts your career ahead of hers (+5)
Society is hellbent on giving women careers. But it’s beyond obvious that if a woman goes to college to have a career, she won’t be able to focus on family as much. Thus, feminism is really about population control in many ways, and young feminists don’t realize this possible agenda. A feminine woman who discourages feminism does not put her career first. She respects her man and puts his career first.
After all, a career is meant for one to provide for oneself. Or to do something interesting for your life. But for a traditional woman, having kids and a husband is more interesting than having a career… A traditional woman knows that if she supports her man’s career, she will be provided for and able to pursue her dreams as a mom and housewife. Give yourself five points if you do this, or are ready to in your relationship.A traditional woman knows that if she supports her man's career, she will be provided for and able to pursue her dreams as a mom and housewife. Click To Tweet
3. She has a private Instagram (+2)
From my observations, women who are less interested in putting themselves before their children and husband will keep their Instagram private. This does not necessarily apply to women who are already married with children. This is more relevant for young women who are looking for marriage. This is because young women today are posing half-naked on Instagram and objectifying themselves for attention. It’s actually a sexual strategy for them. Unfortunately, a feminine, traditional woman will not post her body online for attention. If she does, she won’t have pictures of herself in a bikini comprising 90% of her feed.
But if she has a private Instagram, you know her priorities aren’t validation, and that is a sign of a traditional, secure, woman. Give yourself two points if you have a private Instagram. If you do not have an Instagram, you can also give yourself two points here.
4. She does not post pictures of her butt on Instagram (+1)
Clothed, or in a bikini, a woman who makes the focus of the shot her backside, is not traditional. She is objectifying herself and is focused too heavily on sex appeal, rather than her inner beauty. Since traditional women obviously do not post pictures of their butt on Instagram, you will only receive one point for this. If you don’t have an Instagram also give yourself a point.
5. She doesn’t take selfies (+3)
Selfies aren’t always bad. It’s OK to admire your beauty. But a traditional woman isn’t just traditional in how she views men. She’s not that fond of technology. She likes the little things and the simple things in life. For her, a good time is a great conversation, a long walk on the beach or in a forest, candles, and good food. It’s not binge-drinking with her friends before a wild night out, watching Netflix alone while eating cookies, or hanging out on social media for three hours. Traditional women aren’t obsessed with how they looks in a mirror either. She appreciates it when someone calls her pretty. And she’s secure in herself–well, it’s normal and feminine to be a little insecure sometimes. But she isn’t in the habit of taking pictures of herself. For young women today, it’s like a game they play.
I’ve seen teenagers at a gym I went to before at the cafe taking selfies as if it’s some kind of game or group activity. These are modern young women who think getting male attention is a fun game to play. Don’t get me wrong, it is, but it’s the wrong game to play for a traditional girl.
The problem with many conservatives on social media is that they take a lot of selfies. To promote yourself and educate other women, this is acceptable. But there’s a certain kind of selfie that is wrong to take. So if it’s for self-promotion, then you’re OK. But if you’re a young girl without a brand to promote, then you wouldn’t be taking selfies if you’re traditional. Here’s an example of a thirst-trap selfie that young women take today.
If you look at Lauren Chen’s Instagram though, she takes more tasteful selfies. Nevertheless, she doesn’t have children and isn’t married so she’s not a positive role model for traditional women. She’s the type of modern girl who at least is realizing the problem, but is very invested in her career. Give yourself two points if you don’t take selfies. If you don’t have an Instagram, also give yourself two points.
6. She doesn’t even have an Instagram (+5)
You can be traditional and use Instagram and social media, don’t get me wrong. But the most hardcore traditional women are probably off-put by Instagram. They wouldn’t enjoy being on there and getting distracted. If she is on there, she’s looking for information, not pictures of dogs and other meaningless things. Or she’ll connect with her modern non-traditional friends.
These women see no need to be on the app. Tinder would be another one, but I’m leaving that off this list for now. If you’re not on Instagram, you probably wouldn’t use Tinder… If you’re not on Instagram, you deserve 5 additional points!
7. She’s Amish (+2)
I recently watched some Breaking Amish on YouTube. It’s a TLC show, and I was shocked how they try to portray these people as oppressed, just because some people aren’t happy in those communities. They say clearly in their title, that they’re against Amish people. It’s about breaking Amish communities apart, rather than understanding what we can learn from these traditional peoples.
Unfortunately, if you’re reading this, you’re not Amish, probably. Some do use technology more today. But you will get an additional 2 points if you are Amish just to make this test a bit more difficult and honor these people in America. One viewer of mine wrote that he had a crush on an Amish girl once. He probably loved how traditional she was.
8. She doesn’t have a tattoo (+5)
If she doesn’t have a tattoo, she is likely to be traditional. Many non-traditional women don’t have tattoos, but you will get five points if you don’t have them because it’s becoming more and more common for young people to get tattoos. Further, there are many quasi-traditonal woman out there who get tattoos. I’ve gone to Hillsong Church several times this year, and I was shocked how hipster these people are. They’re too modern. The women wear drab mom jeans, baggy t-shirts, and have tattoos and feminist bands and haircuts. It’s terrible.
A truly traditional woman is not attention seeking, and all tattoos are attention seeking. Five points for this one ladies.
9. She is religious (+3)
You can be traditional and not believe in God. I have viewers in Azerbaijan like this. But most traditional women believe in God. It’s very, very difficult I think to have traditional values without believing in God. But it is possible because traditional values drive us back towards our natural tendencies, and it’s certainly possible to realize that without being a believer. Give yourself three points if you believe in a Creator and practice some type of organized religion.
10. She wants to have many children one day (+5)
A truly traditional woman aches to give birth. When she likes a guy, she wants to have his children. She doesn’t just want sex and love and passion. She wants the consequences of those things, which is children. Modern women don’t want families in their early twenties. But traditional women do, so give yourself five points if you have this amazing quality.
11. She doesn’t belittle men (+3)
I’ve noticed that modern women attack and belittle men often. Their language is foul, and they disrespect men. Since they do not respect and admire the patriarchy, nor do they seek to be ruled by it, they do not fear its consequences. A traditional woman should not just fear God, she should fear her male partner. Not because he will hit her, but he is masculine and he is the authority, kind of like a teacher and pupil relationship, or a boss and employee relationship.
Anyone who is offended by what I said is not traditional. It’s important I say this because since I speak to women, they often challenge what I say. Many quasi-traditionalists want to embrace some parts of feminism and some parts of traditionalism. But that can’t involve disrespect of any form towards the patriarchy. Feminine women speak carefully and gently, without offending anyone. For more inspiration on this see my post about Penelope, the chaste, virtuous lady in Homer’s Odyssey.
Please give yourself three points for this one. I only give three points because this one is very obvious to traditional women, but it is rare enough that it should get three points.
12. She isn’t a false accuser apologist (+4)
In addition to belittling men, modern women accuse men of things they didn’t do in order to get restraining orders and child custody (listen to episode 4 of my podcast, below–and make sure to subscribe to it on Apple podcasts). These type of women can only thrive under a weak patriarchy, as seen in modern Western nations like America. Any woman that condones false accusations has no empathy and is nagging too much. Christian women learn not to nag. They speak when they need to. If there is evidence to confirm wrong actions, she will still seek to forgive that person. Modern women are broken, partly due to their own voluntarily actions, which they take zero accountability for, and being a victim is a coping strategy for them. It’s truly tragic how emotional women are sometimes. They need serious help. And once upon a time a man did that. A loving man.
But even if he was an asshole and he was abusive, a woman learned to tame him. That’s what a truly traditional woman like Penelope does. This does not condone bad behavior from men. Instead, it acknowledges that women can take it upon themselves to inspire better men. A feminist doesn’t do that unfortunately unless she is very feminine and grateful as a human being. She only blames men.
Since false accusations are an epidemic, a woman that isn’t a defender of false accusers gets four points. If you’re a guy, bring up a situation where a man was falsely accused, and see how she response emotionally. A good example is Neil DeGrasse Tyson’s situation. If she displays anger, let her pay for her coffee and afterwards, ghost her. Remember, this woman will falsely accuse you as well. A traditional woman relies on you, and putting you away does not support her goals and ambitions, thus, she will be supportive of you.
13. She has long hair (+4)
A traditional woman takes care of her long, beautiful hair. Like Rapunzel, she has strong, healthy hair. Yes, I know it’s a fairy tale but still. No fairy tales involving hair involve feminists with short, unremarkable hair. There is a shortage of women with long, lustrous locks. We men go crazy over it so if you want to be feminine, don’t cut your hair short. If you are nagging about Marilyn Monroe, realize that she was a sex object and divorced her first husband. If you aspire to be like her you’re in the wrong place, hun.
I will be generous with this one since it’s such an inspiring physical feature. Give yourself four points if you have long hair. It must reach your breasts at least and preferably cover your nipples with its length.
14. She stays silent when men speak, doesn’t speak over them, and lets them speak over her (+3)
A respectful, kind, feminine and therefore traditional lady respects the patriarchy. They are the authority, therefore, she shuts up when they speak. If she has something to say she chooses her words carefully. She knows the power of her femininity so she has no need to cut men off when they speak. Feminists who womansplain and cut men off aren’t secure in their femininity–obviously, since they became feminists–so they will cut men off as a result. Give yourself three points if you are good at this.
For an explanation on womansplaining watch this video:
15. She is a slut-shamer (+3)
Feminine, religious and traditional women do not condone sex before marriage, so how can she condone women who sleep around? She might not be vocal about shaming sluts, but she knows their behavior is wrong and is motivated even further to remain chaste until marriage. Feminine women look at a woman’s sexual past to judge her worth and character. Only nagging women who believe in their rights and liberation think it’s OK to have many partners and still be worthy. In Christianity, it’s actually adultery to marry a divorced woman. You get three points if you cringe, look down upon, and do not associate yourself with promiscuous women.
16. She is sensitive to bad words, like “slut” or “whore” (+2)
Men are less sensitive than women because they have to fight, hunt, and do other bloody and painful things. So for me it’s easy to say these words and think nothing of it. But women are more emotionally attuned, so she may object to my use of the word slut. If you are like that, then you are very feminine and traditional. Swearing like a sailor is bad. A woman should not try to emulate male behavior.
So if you don’t like my use of the word slut, but accept that I use it anyway because you know I’m awesome, then you are definitely traditional, so give yourself an additional two points.
Scoring and Results
Your score will put you in the following three categories: modern, quasi-traditional, and definitely traditional.
Modern: <9 pts
A modern woman will score fewer than 9 points. She is a slut, takes pictures of her butt on Instagram, bad mouths men, falsely accuses them, and has no aspirations to have a big family. She’s very selfish and takes many selfies. She’s not a virgin. If you’re a modern woman, you have some serious work to do. Forgiveness does exist, and if you work on your character, a good man will still want to marry you. It’s good to know where you stand though and if you can convince a man that your past actions won’t be your future actions, and if you understand what it takes to have values that masculine men will appreciate, then you can overcome your modernness.
Quasi-traditional: 9-45 points
Most people will fall into this category, because our use of social media will vary quite a bit, as will our career goals and family plans. It’s not easy to be traditional when you have a hard time finding a man interested in marriage. Back in the day you might meet a guy interested in courting you through family connections. So there’s no shame in being in this category. Just pray every day that you meet the guy you want to live your dream life with and work on areas where you can improve.
Definitely traditional: 45 or more points
A truly traditional woman will score very highly on this list. The only areas she will miss points are being Amish and using Instagram. If you are close to this number then you are really good. If you are in this category, then wow, you’re doing great and are an inspiration to other women. Keep doing you. Take good pictures of yourself once you get married that aren’t attention-seeking selfies and inspire women around the world to be like you. Make yourself heard, as you are the future and the world depends on you.
Traditional women do exist. Several viewers commented that they had most if not all of the 16 traits I outlined here. Men, approach women more often to meet these girls, and start a conversation with them in my comments. It’s a numbers game and you’re bound to meet someone with very good values. Do not rely on online dating apps.
I hope you enjoyed this article, and are motivated to continue upholding strong values.