The idea of being submissive shocks many women today, who feel that they should be ordering men around in their lives in order to “smash the patriarchy.” Women today feel that men are disposable and not valuable unless they’re only helping women. However, these women are finding that these passive men who obey their commands aren’t what they truly want in a relationship. These women want a dominant man who will put them in their place. However, this man isn’t going to be interested in you if you constantly put up a fight when no fight is needed.
The power a woman can have in a relationship comes from her womanly essence and instincts. Is it a man’s instinct to be submissive to a woman? Why is the woman the small spoon and not the big spoon? Switching it up once in a while doesn’t change that the woman loves to be held, comforted and protected by the man in a little spoon position.
Submissiveness is one of the primary qualities men look for in a long-term partner. We all know it turns us on. Sexually, being submissive makes a lot of sense. Women who detest the idea of being submissive in a relationship still like being submissive sexually. But they might feel challenged being submissive in other situations where her man asks her to do something, and she feels like she doesn’t have as much power in a relationship if she just agrees.
That’s what we need to talk about. Having casual sex where women still play a submissive role isn’t the same thing as being submissive in the rest of the relationship. In fact, it could be the complete opposite, if you end up doing what she wants you to do to please her in bed. In that sense, you’re not really the authority she will respect. You’re just another fuck boy.
There are a lot of myths and controversies surrounding this idea, so I will break it down to make it less scary. By no means is anyone suggesting that women should be submissive to all men. What I’m focusing on here is learning to cultivate a less “bitchy” character that benefits you in a relationship. And it’s not like only women can learn to be more pleasant people. We all can.
But today, women are behaving in less pleasant ways. They don’t admire themselves. They want to be men. As the song Alexiane, A Million On My Soul, says: “I have to be the man.” Women today notice that if they behave more like men in the workplace, they get taken more seriously. If that’s what you need to do, of course, do it. But you will have to wash it off before spending time with your partner. You’ll have to cultivate your femininity. A lot of modern women today have deep voices from working so much and it’s not attractive.
Modern life is cultivating less feminine women and it’s hurting their relationships. They complain that men are “intimidated” by their ferocious independence, when men just have no desire for them. I receive comments from women regularly like the one under this article, telling me that feminist thinking caused relationship problems. The woman here was finally told by her fiancé (notice she calls him her “current” fiancé–she sounds promiscuous and troubled) that he will find the courage in his ballsac to hit her back. I congratulate her fiancé for realizing that letting a woman hit you isn’t acceptable. He should have put her in her place a while ago.
Once you learn to unlearn feminist habits, you will connect to your true nature and your relationships will likely improve. But first, let’s talk about abuse as it comes up a lot. Women point out that feminism exists because men abused women. Although this sounds true in theory, is it right to “believe women?” Women say things based on how they’re feeling emotionally. Abuse is complicated territory, but women have abused men as much as men have abused women. The difference is that men aren’t allowed to be victims. They’re only permitted to be providers, and now this instinct isn’t serving them, and it’s why MGTOW exists.
If you were abused, seek help. Don’t complain on the internet. Learn to forgive, heal your wounds, and then attempt fostering healthy relationships. Being submissive scares some women because they fear abuse. Of course, a lot of trust must be established well before you give the man the reins in the relationships. This is another reason why waiting some time before having sex is crucial. It allows time to build the trust needed for submissiveness to not go haywire and prevents you from getting too close (emotionally you can still get really close though without sex and you can have sex and not feel intimate). When people have sex fast, they become smitten later when they realize that working on a relationship isn’t actually fun at all. It’s work. Do the work first, and things will be smoother later and you’ll have a better idea if things can work out long-term.
1. Get Yourself Off the Pedestal
Women are told at a young age they are princesses. They grow up saying a lot of narcissist things about themselves which are laughable compared to the reality. Like they’re “smart.” Anyone with a truly high IQ knows that you don’t usually tell people you’re smart. It’s just really clear to you that you have a higher capacity to think than most people, and you keep it to yourself because life can be quite miserable around average people. But I meet a lot of women today who are convinced they are intelligent, but it’s very clear they are average in thinking when you see what they have to say. In fact, they all look incredibly stupid every single time they try to defend themselves… Getting off a pedestal involves first not being so narcissistic.
Think about women’s “empowerment.” These women are obsessed with “power” because once upon a time, they were powerless and got trampled on. They failed to realize why they got trampled on because they were too emotional to try to figure it out and it’s not in her nature to figure anything out (see this article). But there was a reason for it and it’s not entirely the man’s fault. I’m sorry if that sounds harsh because you were abused, but this is part of getting off the pedestal. Blaming men for everything isn’t going to create the healthiest relationship in your life. He’s going to be unable to love you eventually, and will withdraw from you in some capacity.
A reasonable, sensible woman realizes that she is also to blame for things. When women are young, they generally don’t do this so a masculine man must put her in her place early, and having a strong father figure goes a long way in cultivating a feminine woman. When women realize that their own gender has done terrible things to men they earn the respect and devotion of men. Of course, you may look at feminists selling their bodies on the internet and see that men want to be devoted to these women, but you wouldn’t be attracted to that so easily would you? A man at your knees drowning in lust? He is a pathetic man and he isn’t devoted for life. He is devoted for one night and will say nice things to you to get in your pants.
You want the devotion and service of a man that appreciates your womanliness. He will validate you, cherish you, and respect what you have to offer (cooking, cleaning, being a mother, being feminine. etc) if you show him that you will do the same. How can you do that if you think so highly of yourself? That’s what women’s empowerment has done. You are drowning in it if you are reading this, and it takes extra effort to realize how toxic the message is. Even conservative women believe in women’s empowerment. Conservative organizations like Turning Point USA and Prager U even promote women’s empowerment. The CEO of Prager U is a female. That job could be going to a male so that he can provide for his family.
Being anti-feminist isn’t a popular message. But I share it because I see from you guys it’s what you want in some capacity. And it’s what I believe will make society great again. I truly don’t care to hear about conservative women working on their “careers.” There are women today hunting even, like a man should, at the expense of having children. She is in the wrong place, but she’s almost there since at least she is conservative. Men shouldn’t be so accepting of women working alongside them.Men shouldn't be so accepting of women working alongside them. Click To Tweet
What do you truly want as a woman? Do you want what society says you should want? Because if society was really about empowering women, why would women turn on you for wanting to be a housewife? Are you not empowered in raising healthy children, and nurturing the next generation? Is it our task to simply live for ourselves or make this world a better place for our children? If you want a family life, and if you want to be a mother, why believe in women’s empowerment? Get yourself off a pedestal and find what truly brings you joy.
2. Realize he has options and there’s always better than you
A man will walk away when he is truly bored. Or, he will die a slow and painful death, and you will be miserable in the process. You are not a queen. You are most likely just a normal, “basic bitch” with little to nothing to really offer a man. Can you cook? Can you make his day better? Can you massage his feet? Will you give him oral when he comes home? Where does your value truly come from? This is a question fempowerment has ignored, because they have mistakenly believed that all women are beautiful goddesses who deserve everything under the sun.
But despite the hundreds if not thousands of matches you get on Tinder, if you are not submissive and feminine non-sexually as well as sexually, men will only be interested in using you as a cumdumpster. If you don’t have a strong feminine essence for him to imbibe, he can’t get addicted to you. He cannot want to see you again and again and truly enjoy being around you, because then he would be settling. This goes far beyond sexual attraction. This has to do with feeling peace and harmony in your life. When we don’t feel peace and harmony in our love life, we tell our friends: “man, my girlfriend is being such a bitch!” I’m not trying to be rude, I’m just not your fat friend so I’m telling you the truth about how we think.If you don't have a strong feminine essence for him to imbibe, he can't get addicted to you. Click To Tweet
Most men view women as objects because they don’t have a track record of proving they are good at much else. The most successful women today profit from objectifying women too, either by objectifying their own bodies, or selling products to help women remain precious physical objects that men can pursue sexually while inspiring the jealousy of other women.
I respect women who have honed a craft that inspires others. Of course, women can be gifted, skilled and talented. But that has no worth in a relationship if she isn’t beautiful. Think that’s mean? I can find you plenty of stories of the converse. Where women walked away from their partners because he became disabled temporarily, or was sick, or injured and therefore was unable to “provide” in a sense. These men now watch YouTube channels that talk about the red pill, mgtow, and dating more intelligently. These men were traumatized by women who felt they were worthless when they were sick.
Unfortunately, these women wanted a quick fix, and therefore, may suffer over and over again from not being satisfied enough. She hasn’t cultivated her character, and her relationship stopped working not because her ex fell ill, but because she doesn’t find joy in being herself as a woman. She finds joy in meaningless experiences, and therefore will end up miserable.
Your value comes from your behavior. The women I have met who truly stunned me had noxious, effortless femininity that oozed out of every pore in her wonderful physique. It’s such a great feeling that it almost makes you wonder if God created it. Women today might have the physical part, but not the emotional part. Cultivating that starts with realizing that he will truly love you when you understand femininity. And that begins with realizing that there are women out there he is dreaming about. Make him dream about you.
3. Realize that if you want to be provided for, you must be someone who needs to be provided for
Realize that if you want to be provided for by a man, you must be someone worth providing for. If you are not submissive, why would a man provide for you? Are you strong, independent, and courageous? Because that sounds like you don’t need a man’s help for anything.
If women believe they don’t need men, they shouldn’t complain if men don’t want to provide for them, or don’t make as much money as they’d like because they’ve asked for “gender equality” (see video below). One law of nature is that every action has an equal and opposite reaction. It’s called karma. And it’s out of your control. This is why women are reporting to me that their relationships are improving from embracing their femininity and not being as bitchy. They’re seeing a strong reaction from their male partners because something is being activated inside of him.
So your motivation to be submissive should be in activating this instinct deep inside him that is yearning to come out. Support him and help him with it. That’s his mission in life. Remember Homer Simpson? He was a funny beer-bellied couch potato, but one thing he always did was protect and provide for his family. Do you want that to be your job? I didn’t think so. No wonder so many feminists are lonely and single, complaining at 38 that they can’t find men good enough for them.
Sorry hun, they’re just not into you.
4. Realize that nature made you this way; it’s not his fault.
Women love being submissive, but sometimes they get upset. “Why do I have to do all this for him?” you might wonder, nagging away like the woman you are. In the meantime, he’s wondering why he has to put up with your bullshit after coming home from work every day. Do you really think he asked to be a man? He was just born that way. You should be glad he was.
It’s not his fault that he likes to tell you what to do, and that you actually kind of like it. It’s not his fault he wants to possess you and make you his woman and no one else’s. It’s not your fault you want him to be your man now is it? Didn’t think so. Now we’re getting somewhere.
The reason why I believe the man is the authority in a relationship, or should be the head of a household and family, isn’t because a book told me that. To me, it just feels right. People often ask me if my beliefs come from having Indian heritage. Perhaps to them, life is really simple. I grew up a certain way, because of my… skin color. Therefore, yes, I must be a traditionalist that must explain it.
I don’t blame them for these idiotic ideas. But I believe in what I do because I am a highly intuitive person and form judgments based on gut reactions. I used to be entirely “evidence-based” but quickly realized this made no sense. We have the capacity to make sense of the world and we don’t need to read things to make sense of it. This applies to people who read religious texts to get all their information. We have the ability to figure things out on our own.
But the fact that much of what I say is echoed in the Bible and perhaps other books does lend support to my ideas. It’s nature that makes man the leader. If you believe in creation, it’s God who made man the leader. Whatever the case, men and women are not equals. Getting upset over this won’t serve you. It’s what feminists do. Their existence is motivated by so much resentment. When you accept your nature, you will feel a weight lift off your chest, and you may be much happier because you can actually be yourself. So don’t get mad at him for being the man, cherish that nature made it this way and make the best out of it.
Submissiveness is a choice and also a program, that must be used wisely, and for the effect of enhancing your life together with your partner. The focus shifts from “me” to “we” here. It’s about creating a dynamic that benefits everyone. Modern women detest the idea of being submissive, except when they’re riding the cock carousel, where there is nothing but fun and a lack of responsibility–as well as STD’s–because they don’t care about anything but themselves! Why do you think these women wear dresses, go to clubs, have their friend take a picture of them, and then post it to their Instagram? It’s all a ploy to get more and more attention for the self, rather than for the benefit of her future man. She truly does not care for men. She cares for herself first and foremost. Feminine women can still focus on themselves but once they lose respect for men, they will find that men are unable to love them.
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